Lately, Bonnie “The Runner” has made an appearance. Bonnie “The Runner” is someone that used to run 2-3 miles 3x/week PK (Pre-Kids), and has, to be quite
honest, gotten incredibly out of the habit of running (except to run to the school bus with my 6-year old when we’re late!). Bonnie “The Runner” is slowing getting back into running, thanks to her friend, Jo, an incredible runner, who was patient enough to start out slowly with her, and i mean slowly.
The thought of getting back into running was terrifying and completely overwhelming for Bonnie “The Runner.” But, after a few months of running here and there, Bonnie “The Runner” can now run 3-miles without stopping.
Now this did NOT happen overnite. Like a slow and steady turtle, Bonnie “The Runner” chugged along. She set small, reachable goals that could be met. This is critical for success.
Often times, the long-term goal seems too overwhelming for people. You think, “I’m never going to be able to do that,” or “That will never happen.” This negative self talk is exactly what you need to eliminate. Instead, set small, obtainable goals that you WILL reach. Doing this will help you gain confidence, and make you feel like a success, not a failure.
As for me, i’m constantly setting new little goals for Bonnie “The Runner”. And let me tell you, meeting your goals is an awesome feeling. I remember that one of my first goals was to be able to run for a mile without stopping, and then for 13 minutes, and then for 2 miles in a row….and now i can run a 5K without stopping. WOW. I’ve come a long way in a short time.
It’s important to remember how far you’ve come. Often times we forget this, and get hung up on a “bad run” and get all bummed out about our abilities. Again, nix the negative self-talk. Instead of focusing on how slow your run was, and how you didn’t improve your time, think about how 4 weeks ago you never could have run this far. Celebrate your abilities and all that your body has to offer you…don’t be so hard on it…it’s the ONLY one you have!
By setting small, reachable goals, Bonnie “The Runner” is actually gaining some confidence back with running, and is dare I say, even starting to “enjoy” it a bit. The heavy Darth Vader breathing is a thing of the past (ok, sometimes it makes an appearance), as is the negative self-talk (ok, sometimes that makes an appearance too, but i quickly try to banish it). I can now admit that I sometimes even look forward to my runs…the fresh air, the power of my body, the feeling of calm I will achieve usually after mile 1, and most of all, the amazing high and feeling of accomplishment I will get once I finish.
Not only has Bonnie “The Runner” emerged, “Yoga Bonnie” is slowly emerging too. At first feeling like a complete loser that I couldn’t do a backbend without a fear of having a stroke and snapping my neck, I now can celebrate my small accomplishments…and it all starts with just devoting time to my mat and me at yoga class.
Ok, so I still cant do a real backbend (“Wheel” as those yogis call it), but I CAN do a mini backbend and it actually feels pretty good. And I CAN do chatarunga pretty darn good, and my warrior poses have really gotten stronger since i started commiting to my yoga practice. I can now touch my toes without fear of snapping a hamstring, and I’m SO close to being able to getting into “Crow” without dumping on my head. I FEEL ACCOMPLISHED!
See what some positive self-talk can do? It has the unbelievable ability to strengthen your mind AND your body, so you CAN achieve your goals, both big and small. I am still miles away from ever getting into “Birds of Paradise” or a full fledged headstand, or running a 9-minute mile, but I just keep reminding myself how far I’ve come, and then it puts it all back into perspective.
So, whatever it is that you like to do, remember to always set yourself up for SUCCESS. You can do this, by setting small, reachable goals. Don’t forget to celebrate your accomplishments and remember how far you’ve come. Before you know it, your long-term goal will be closer than you think, and you’ll have to make a new and improved goal.
Good luck in your journey.
Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement.
Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.
– Helen Keller
Love & Lunges,
Bonnie
















